How To Show Up For Your Reflection. | A conversation around Glamor Magick Rituals, Healing and Tarot for Self Care
I want to preface this journal entry by saying (and reminding others) that I am a bad ass bitch. I’m the baddest bitch in any and every room I walk into. My energy is infectious, inviting and highly protected. With that being said, I want to have a real ass conversation about self image, public image and Glamor magick. All of those things that are interconnected and often can have an impact on how we navigate this life. When you ask yourself “where does my self worth come from?” you can then start to see just where those unflattering and down right mean thoughts come from. Does your value lie in the hands of the public? Fuck no. Absolutely not, but we can catch stray bs from publicity. Have you ever heard the phrase “I want the wealth of fame, not the attention”? To be seen is to set yourself up for scrutiny and outside opinions. The way to move through that is to always see yourself in your truest form. Only you really know who you are. Your perception of yourself is the only one that actually matters, because you have to carry this meat suit and feelings around.
I may not be a typical “baddie”. Flawless skin, a super fit body or voluptuous body, perfectly laid hair, extremely white teeth and whatever else is on the list of being “society’s hot girl” . I typically stand out like a lil alien weirdo when I’m with my friends, like the time I wore overalls and a bucket hat to the strip club. Personally, I love being different I love having my own sense of self in this world, but I’m also an Aquarius Sun, with HELLA Capricorn placements and a Leo moon. So my Goddess-complex is astronomical if we’re being real. Have I always been bold? Yes. Confident? Not so much. There are days even now where I have to wake up and choose to love what I see when I look in the mirror. Sometimes the reflection looking back at me looks exactly like what I perceive in my mind. Other times, I am met with a sense of dread and darkness that isn’t always easy to shake or ignore. So what do I do when that reflection shows up? I sit with it. I hold it. I pour magick and light into it. I stare and cry, I fight and plead for something different to appear.
Holding myself through my own shadow has become easier over time. I remind myself that I am loved and safe in my body. I remind my reflection that what I see is merely a perception not a fact. I hug myself, wrapping my arms around all the parts of me that can fit inside the hug. I write personal statements on mirrors, so that when I look the next time I met with kindness. I turn to my coven and let their love wash over me like the coolest water from a waterfall. I take it to my yoga mat and leave every worry with every drop of sweat that leaves my body. I seek healing through tarot spreads with trusted comrades and seek council from licensed therapists. I try. I don’t give up, I look at her (my reflection) and I just try.
It is not always easiest to try, because there is a chance that failure meets you instead of success. But what is failure other than a chance to dig a lil deeper, change directions. For me, that looks like anointing my mirrors with holy oils, smudging and praying over them. I also do a Reflective ritual that calls in divine power, strength to see what I can not and love.
Kirsten’s “Take a Look Around” Mirror Ritual
This Ritual is to be done during a Full Moon phase. Most potent during water Full Moons!
Supplies
A full length mirror
white, pink and yellow candles
Red wine for yourself and your altar
Red, pink and yellow roses
Rose Quartz, Harlequin Quartz, Selenite, Amazonite
A journal for releasing and one for acceptance
The Empress Tarot Card
Your favorite perfume/spray/oil
A sexy af playlist
Glass of filtered water to make moon water with
Directions (can be followed or improvised)
STEP ONE
As you relax into this ritual, grab your releasing journal and write down all of things that make you feel disconnected from your reflection. What makes you afraid to see yourself for who you really are? What is blocking your view of yourself?
Take a cleansing bath/shower. Wash your hair, moisturize, do your skincare routine! Also, air dry! No towels! If you live in shared space, you may cover yourself in white clothing/linen until you are in a secure space.
Spray your naked body with your favorite body perfumes, sprays, or oils.
Gather your supplies
Set up your altar. Me personally, I use silver sharpies and paint pens to draw sigils onto my altar. You can use whatever your heart desires.
STEP TWO
Light your candles, placing them around your Empress Tarot Card. If you are using non-enclosed candles, you can place them on a microwave safe plate. Placing The Empress underneath the plate. You may also fix your candles with your preferred oils, herbs. Remember, this ritual is based on self acceptance and awarness. So herbs like, rose petals, calendula, lavender, clove, cinnamon, nutmeg and rosemary are all excellent for this process.
Turn off all other lights and electronics. Only allowing the light of your candles to hold space for light work.
Ground yourself! You can listen to heart, sacral or root chakra frequencies. Meditate. Dance. Do a yoga flow focusing on opening your hips and heart.
Pray! You can use Psalm 36:9 or say your own prayer/chant, invoke your ancestors and guardians. Calling in the power that lies within you given to you by The Creator. Use this time to hold and sit with The Empress, asking her to open up the gates to the garden. Visualizing her holding your hand as you prepare to sit in depth of your image and emotion.
Drink your wine and as you pour a glass for Goddess. Think of all the way that Goddess lives within you. You were created and manifested into a divine being for a reason. Show gratitude for the fact that you are in fact a divine attachment to The Creator. You are an extension of the universal magick. Own it.
STEP THREE
Stand in front of your mirror. Notice yourself. Look at the strands of hair on your head (or skin for my bald baddies)! Look at the shape of your facial features. Those lips, those deep and soulful eyes, your smile and nose and ears. Take in yourself. Who you are right now. That person, is so fucking worthy of all of the love. Especially from yourself. Hug yourself. Touch yourself. Feel who you are.
For my sex magick besties, grab your favorite toy (hand) or partner and have a couple orgasms in front of the mirror. Using the power of your pleasure to affirm your power. You know what they say, an Orgasm a day keeps the magick at play. Have fun with it! You may also find that you enter subspace during or after this ritual. Please be mindful of that as you do your work.
For my not so sensual babes, you can use this time to dance in front of the mirror. Do another yoga/mobility flow. Recite chants, etc.
Letting your body’s energy flow freely, take this time to pull cards. You can use the spread I posted above or do your own! Let this be your moment of clarity and self reflection.
Grab your acceptance journal and reveal what you’ve discovered about yourself. You can draw a picture, write a poem, write song lyrics, anything that reflects the love that you have for yourself.
Close out your ritual. Sending your guides love and praises for keeping you close and leading you. Calling your energy back in from the high cosmos. You can pray, meditate or simply call it back down. Whatever works for you!
Clean your working area! Keep your candles lit (if possible)! If not, be sure to snuff (NEVER blow) your candles out. Place your moon water in a window seal! You can also place it outside, just be sure to keep it covered from bugs! Mason Jars with lids work the best IMO!
Personally, I like to go to bed right after this ritual, but you can do whatever you want lol. Any-who, I hope that if you do this ritual you share your experience in the comments below or by messaging me on Instagram! I would love to hear your experiences!
xx
Kirsten Renee
