I Love Me and My Promise Ring
by Emery W.
“I know what I want, and I want to wear a damn ring from my boyfriend without being engaged.”
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I like the ‘Total Sorority Move’ page on Facebook even though I have never been, nor had the willingness to be in a Panhellenic sorority (I was, however, an active member of Kappa Kappa Psi, National Honorary Band Fraternity for four years so I have some insight on Greek Life). With that being said, I read some of the articles they post, and while I find most of them equal parts condescending and petty, I also think they’re good for a laugh here and there.
Recently, one in particular titled, “I Hate You and Your Promise Ring,” hit me on a personal level because I do, and have been, wearing a promise ring for a year. Whether the author of the article meant this in a facetious way or not, let me break it down to all of you lovelies as to why I love my promise ring.
"I’m 25, Not 12"
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I agree that 12-year-olds who promise each other “forever” are sick in the head. You just hit puberty, kid calm the eff down. But I’m 25 years old. I have a full-time job, health insurance, pay my own bills, and can legally get drunk as long as I have a sober ride home. I know what I want, and I want to wear a damn ring from my boyfriend without being engaged.
"My Promise Ring Isn’t a ‘Pre-engagement’ Ring."
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If I wanted a pre-engagement ring, then I’d call it a pre-engagement ring. My boyfriend and I made the conscious decision to buy each other promise rings for our first anniversary. They weren’t surprise acts of commitment. By that time, we were already committed to each other, but weren’t (and still aren’t) financially ready to have a wedding. We don’t want to be that couple who gets engaged just because we’re in love, but then stay that way for a million years. However, current society also has this incredibly ridiculous stigma that, “There’s no ring on your finger so I’ve still got a chance,” and, “No doesn’t actually mean no.”
"You’re Probably Just Jealous"
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This is a total assumption, but I’m assuming the people hating on my ring are ones who don’t have one. Not necessarily because you’re single, but maybe because your SO hasn’t bought you one yet. Are you seriously telling me that if the person you love gives you a beautiful ring as a gift (sans getting down on one knee, and popping the question), and tells you, “I love you, and I promise you I always will,” that you’ll turn that shit down because they didn’t ask you to marry them? That makes you a dill hole. Would you accept it if it were anything else besides a ring?
Maybe this rebuttal is me being petty in response to the TSM author’s original pettiness, but let’s always remember; don’t be a hater. People are going to give what they give, and wear what they want to wear.
My 90's Ancestors
by Kirsten F
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Growing up I always was in the presence of black girl magic on television. With shows like Moesha, Living Single, Girlfriends and many others I always knew what I wanted in a friend.
I always identified with the Sinclair’s, the Spirit’s and the Lynn’s of the group, the aloof but brilliant one.
I had women like Kadijah James to inspire me at a young age to create my own publication one day.
Women like Moesha who showed me that writing my thoughts was the best way for me to express myself. She also taught me that box braids and overalls is the perfect outfit.
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I had the super fly gals like Regine who made me laugh because she reminded me of my mother, and they both taught me to never settle for less than what I deserved.
Regine also taught me that finding the perfect wig is like finding a soulmate.
I had the Hilary’s and the Ashley’s, preppy and cool. Who taught me that there is no such thing as whitewashed and I’m perfect how I am.
Kim Parker taught me that just because I’m a plus sized lady my confidence is there. Large and in charge was the way of life, and slay it as you go along.
Joan taught me that you can be successful and still find happiness in life, while Maya taught me to never let circumstances stop you from reaching your dreams.
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Maxine Shaw taught me that opening my heart will always lead me in the right direction, and never hide my hilarious comments.
Susie taught me that my plaits on my head where cute and apart of my childhood. She also showed me that it’s cool to be well rounded even in Elementary School.
There were sister squads like Tia and Tamera who showed me that family is always going to be beside you. Even those who you didn’t meet until later on in life.
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These women taught me how to be a friend, how to own my life and the path I go down. The showed me that as a black girl I too will find a family within my friends, love and affection, and still live my wildest dreams.
I grew up in the era of the laid back, cool black girl magic. The one’s with the dope haircuts, and tremendous style. The ones who had each others backs and never apologized for being themselves.
It’s because of them that my magic is as bright as it is, because they taught me how to use it.
Rory Gilmore and Her Boyfriends: The Complete List
by Kirsten F
*Disclaimer* All of this is formed specifically from my own opinions. Which I am clearly an expert, so there.
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I am what one would call a “Gilmore Girls” expert, I have watched each episode enough times to make fully formed opinions on each character and their lives. Today we’re going to discuss Rory Gilmore and her different relationships with each of her three boyfriends during the original series. Rory was shy and timid when we first met her, she was the book reading, music loving, sweetheart that we all loved. Not as flirty as her vivacious mother, Rory was more on the serious side. She was a serious relationship type of gal, who at times refused to stand up for herself. Here’s my very calculated (and science approved) “Boyfriend of Rory Gilmore Scale”. Where we will dive deep into who in fact was the number one beau of our baby Gilmore.
Dean Forester
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Dean was Rory’s high school boyfriend, her first one to be exact. When we first met Dean he was that sweet boy next door with great hair. He was polite, respectful, he understood that Lorelai and Rory were a double package. I personally loved Dean up until season two I believe. He became this clingy, needy human and I personally can’t stand that in a partner. To me Dean wanted Rory to utilize all of her time for him, and I’m sorry… But the girl was on a fast track to the Ivy Leagues, she didn’t have time to cater to his needs. Also, let’s not forget to add the fact that Dean was lowkey a misogynist! That entire Donna Reed inspired episode proved that, oh and the fact that he felt like he could tell her what to do and who she was.
Rory was still very new to the whole girlfriend thing, and I think she handled it in her own way. That was their first rodeo at a relationship, obviously if you watched the show you know that they broke up and then got back together. Except when the got back together, DEAN WAS MARRIED, and that’s just a no no! Rory and Dean’s relationship was very juvenile and at times just plain annoying.
To be honest, I give dean a 4.5/10 because although he was a cutie, he was also very shitty.
Jess Mariano
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Let me go ahead and just let this be known before we dive into Jess and Rory’s relationship. I can not stand Jess, and I don’t care that he’s gotten his life together. To me Jess was this broody, moody, self centered, self proclaimed tortured soul. He was rude, and treated everyone around him like crap just because he had parental issues, and didn’t know how to deal with it. To me Rory saw Jess as a project … Someone who she could take care of, but in reality he sucked the life right out of her. They were constantly fighting and I truly believe Rory forgot her worth while she was with Jess. Sure they were compatible in certain ways, but the boy had some SERIOUS issues he needed to work out. Who just ups and leaves their girlfriend without saying goodbye? RUDE.
Jess had no idea how to be with Rory, he lacked basic communication skills, and often tried to use sex as a way to get Rory to back off. Not cool bro! Not to mention he was always so disrespectful to Lorelai, and one thing you don’t do is disrespect a girls mama. Let’s also not forget that he was the KING of self sabotage, and didn’t seem to give a damn about that fact. Whatever, Jess was not my cup of tea.
Jess on a point system out of 10… You get a 1/10, The one is for having good taste in music.
last on our list, is the one and only
Logan Huntzberger
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I am 100% #TeamLogan , and no… it’s not because he is rich. It’s because out of all two other people Rory has dated Logan was the ONLY one who was honest off the start. He never lied to Rory about what his intentions were, he never tried to change her, nor did he disguise himself as the nice guy. Logan told Rory from day one that he’s a rich, spoiled brat who likes to party. To me Logan was possibly the best guy Rory was with, I think he helped her relax. Now I am not saying that Logan was perfect, in no way was he perfect. To be honest he was very set in his ways, and often was reckless to the detriment of himself.
Logan was a spoiled brat, who eventually grew up, however one thing always remained consistent … He never asked Rory to be anyone other than herself. He actually changed himself while he was with her, which I’m not saying that’s what you should do in a relationship. I think Rory’s relationship with Logan was her first post adolescent one, instead of just breaking up. They actually grew together and worked on their issues. That my friends is how you have a successful situation, COMMUNICATE.
Logan you receive a 8/10 simply because compared to those other two… You’re the bees knees. Also, you’re the hottest of the three.
All of these are strictly my own opinion, and that’s okay. The Gilmore Girls is a staple in my life, and I am very excited for November! I truly hope Logan and Rory get back together because they make me smile. Who’s your favorite boyfriend of Rory?
8 Tips on How to Stock Your Period Survival Kit
by Emery W.
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It’s that time of the month again, ladies, and it is a doozy. That’s right, Aunt Flo, the queen of all that is evil, has arrived for her monthly visit, and while she’s a blessing to many of us who want that indication that we are NOT with child, she has a tendency to over stay her welcome.
Menstruation is becoming less of a taboo topic to talk about because most of us women have one fairly regularly, so what do you do when your lady parts hate you, and decide to be a bitch while you’re not at home? No worries, I’m giving you wonderful readers the inside scoop on what’s inside of my mobile period kit.
1. Tote Bag/Large Purse
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If you’re the kind of lady like I am who absolutely HATES carrying purses so when you do, it’s the tiniest one possible, then for these on-the-go period essentials, you’ll need to invest in some form of tote bag, or large purse. Personally, I use an old hand-me-down laptop bag my best friend gave me when we moved out of our apartment, but you can pick one up cheap at your local thrift store, or Walmart.
2.Pain Killers
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The worst part of menstruation is probably the pain. Seriously, I could handle accidental blood leakage so much easier if it didn’t feel like Mount Vesuvius was erupting in my lower abdomen every two minutes. My product of choice is Tylenol Extra Strength, but choose whatever option is best for you. I pop two as soon as I wake up because I don’t know about you other ladies, but the first hour after waking up is the only time during the day I’m not cramping. After that, I’ll take two more every 4-6 hours depending on my level of pain (day 2 is seriously, the worst). Just remember to watch your intake, and to follow the directions on the bottle. No two bodies are exactly the same so what works for me, may not work for you.
3.Extra Underwear
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It’s no shock that sometimes our periods are a bit heavier than expected, and it looks like the Red Sea is making its way out of our vaginas. That’s why it’s always important to carry extra underwear in case of leakage. You could also opt (like me) to wear the tampon + pad comp for extra security, but just in case, get you a nice, comfy pair of underwear to place in your bag.
4. Flannel/Light Cardigan
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For those days when pads or tampons just don’t cut it, and you spot through both your underwear and your pants, it’s always nice to have an extra layer of security. Put a light flannel shirt, or cardigan in your bag to wrap around your waist in case of emergency. I got a super lightweight one at Walmart, but once again, your local thrift store should have something that works. Not only is having a long-sleeved something tied around your waist international woman code for, “Help me, I’m bleeding!” it’s also a cute fashion accessory so it’s as much of a win as you’re going to get during your cycle.
5.To-Go Kleenex Packs
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Along with cramps, and uncontrollable bleeding comes the uncontrollable mood swings. I quite often find myself crying because I don’t have a family size pack of Pull ‘N Peel Twizzlers at work on a semi-regular basis. If you find yourself in this exact same situation, or anything similar, pick up a pack of Kleenex so that you’re ready for those unexpected water works.
6.Wipes
One of my least favorite parts of menstruation is how icky I feel after being on the toilet. Even after I’ve just wiped with toilet paper, I still feel gross. I mean, I know I can’t be the only one who looks after wiping so you know, there’s a mess. Plus, there’s the blood residue that gets on your hand too. I’m used to it, and I still think it’s gross. An easy fix for that could be to get some type of wet wipe. Be sure to get the flushable kind, and even if you wipe your hand with it, wash your hands afterward. Good hygiene, ladies; it’s a necessity. I promise you’ll feel so much better, and it also helps with odors (along with changing your pad/tampon regularly).
7.Chocolate
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I don’t know what it is, but something about hormones going out of whack makes me crave chocolate. I’m usually not much of a chocolate fan. In fact, I don’t buy it at all unless I’m on my period. I’m a preschool teacher, and if there’s one thing I’m known for, it’s having an emergency supply of chocolate (along with extra tampons, pads, and a bottle of Ibuprofen) hidden in a treasure box at work. See, us women have to take care of each other. However, when I’m not a work, I keep some Reese’s Peanut Butter Cups in my period bag. I’ll freeze it overnight to counteract the inevitable melting caused by Texas heat, but when you’re craving, chocolate in any form is Heaven on Earth.
8.Notebook/Pad + Pen
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Maybe this one is more of a personal preference, but I keep a journal during my period. It’s so important for me to write down my feelings and thoughts during this time so that I don’t lash out at anyone else. With the influx of hormonal abnormalities (that sounded smart, huh?), tempers have a tendency to flare. Instead of taking it out on someone else, write it down. Once you’re back to being categorized as normal-woman crazy, the things you wrote down will sound either hilarious, or incredibly profound.
Every woman, and every period is different so of course, not all of these things work for every person, but hopefully these help. At a time in our lives as women when it seems like everything is awful, and the world is obviously ending, we all need a little help.
The Age of Pregnancy: Women VS Men
by Emery W.
Sooooo… When’re you having kids?
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How often do women hear, “You don't have any kids yet? You should get on that before it’s too late.” Mostly by the age of 30-35, women are being pressured to have children before their baby-making bits “dry up”.
I remember my sister telling me that her obstetrician during her first pregnancy told her that she was “starting late” in terms of having kids. She was 28. Even my mother considered herself a late bloomer when she was pregnant with my sister at 25. Imagine how she felt being pregnant with me at 32. Her reasoning? All her friends got pregnant right out of high school.
In a world where teen pregnancy is continuously criticized, and couples who get married right out of high school are frowned upon because they’re simply too young to know any better, where is the line that says, “It’s ok to get married, and start a family,”?
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I bring the subject up because as a 25-year-old woman in a committed relationship with a 23-year-old, I have people ask me all of the time, “Do you have kids?” when I respond with no, the follow-up question tends to be, “Why not? Don’t you think it’s time?” Honestly, I would love to get married and start a family, but realistically, my boyfriend and I aren’t ready to take that major step yet. You see, people see me, and automatically think that the longer I wait, the less likely I am to have children. They look at my boyfriend and think, he has so much time. Getting married and having kids would ruin the prime years of his life. There’s only a two-year difference between us. Is my prime time not as important as his?
Women reach menopause around the age of 50, give or take, which is when they reach the end of their child-bearing years. Also, the older the age of the mother when she’s pregnant, the higher the risk of developmental issues in the baby become. Men lose their ability to have children around…never. Sure, some risks get higher, but they never actually lose the ability to procreate. Is that why there’s such a double-standard on women feeling the need to have children before they reach middle-aged versus men?
Girls are told all the time that they mature faster than boys; both physically and mentally. While some females feel that they can handle settling down at 25, society has placed the thought that being monogamous is a curse until they hit their mid to late 30s. What are we ladies supposed to do until then? Conform to the stigma that we only use men to reproduce? No way. If we’re all expected to attend school at the same time, graduate college, and have a career by our late 20s, then women don’t deserve to be shamed for not being able to get pregnant after a certain age.
Let it be known now that I no way, shape, or form, condone teenage pregnancy. Do I respect the young women who have had a baby, raised it, and morphed their life around their child? Fuck yes! Just as much as I support the young women that make the decision to give their child up for adoption. I also respect strong women like Janet Jackson who made the decision to put their career first before having a child. At the end of the day, we were the sex that God blessed with the ability to endure the transition and pain of childbirth. No matter how old or young the mother happens to be. Birth is a beautiful, natural thing. Not some process made to fit in a man-made timetable.
Why I'm Fighting For Planned Parenthood
by Kirsten F
You will not police my body. You will not police my body. YOU WILL NOT POLICE MY BODY.
During most of 2016 I was without health insurance, and for me (a woman who has quite a few reproductive problems) that was an issue. Since I was 13 I’ve suffered from terrible periods; unbearable cramps that cause me to vomit, extreme water retention, cysts the size of golf balls on my Ovaries, excessive bleeding… the list goes on. Being on birth control truly changed my life, and had nothing to do with being sexually active. Not only did it regulate my periods, it got my hormones in check as well. The sweating, the crying, the body hair, and other issues had finally been taken care of.
Being without my birth control was hell for me, I was back to feeling like death whenever my period came. I was bed ridden, tired, and in so much pain that sometimes I couldn’t walk. However, I remembered someone telling me that Planned Parenthood works with people without insurance. So there I was in front of the location in Olympia, Washington. A little scared because well… What if someone thought I was there because I was pregnant? I quickly shook that thought, ashamed of myself for even thinking that in the first place. However, sometimes we are still haunted by what we were taught growing up.
Planned Parenthood changed my life in just under an hour. Not only did they make me feel at ease (more than ANY of my doctors ever have). They gave me information on how to get free healthcare. The staff at Planned Parenthood talked to me like I was a person, and didn’t make me feel ashamed for anything that I said. They asked me what option I wanted when it came to birth control, and gave me a year supply of pills and a few boxes of “Plan B” which is $50 a box at Target.
Planned Parenthood saved my life, and now I need your help saving theirs. This week America elected the devil himself as The President. He and his staff don’t believe in women’s healthcare, nor do they believe that women have a right to our own bodies. I need your help making sure that Planned Parenthood thrives during these next four years. Whether that be through donations , volunteering, or just simply showing your support in whatever way you can. You can help make a difference, and help save the lives of women, men and children everywhere.
Are you with me?
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How I Learned About My Body
by Kirsten F
“Human bodily functions are something that we ALL have… So why make a big deal about it? “
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Growing up talking about my body really wasn’t something that was ever a thing. Asking questions about nipples and other body parts went unanswered. Until one day when I was eight, my mother bought me a book called “The Care and Keeping Of You” made by The American Girl Company. Honestly that book fascinated me, because there it was a complete layout of every question I had ever asked. I like to chalk that book up to the reason as to why I’m so brutally honest about my bodily functions now. It normalized what I was once ashamed of, and made it seem less scary. I remember blushing because the girl who was showing me how to insert a tampon the right way was sitting spread eagle on the toilet and she had pubic hair. However, it taught me to see my own body hair coming in as exciting! It felt like I was a part of some exclusive club, in a way I was, and I still am. As a woman we are often taught that our bodies are not our own, and that we must hide those parts of ourselves. “The Care and Keeping Of You” taught me about how to handle my emotions and how to care for my skin the right way when the pimples started rolling in. It taught me how to shave and to be honest it’s not like that actually stuck with me, because shaving your legs is a hassle.
I personally see no problem with talking about my bodily functions as a woman. I think that since it’s natural it’s not a taboo, human bodily functions are something that we ALL have… So why make a big deal about it? We all poop, pee, and occasionally puke our brains out after too many shots. Your body is not something you should EVER be afraid of, in fact your best relationship should be with yourself. How can you possibly love yourself if you’re afraid of what your body naturally does? We all have hair growing in weird place (nipple hair is real), and no matter what there’s nothing we can do about it! Normalizing bodily functions also helps educate those who believe that women’s breasts are only made for sexual reasons and not actually feeding tiny humans.
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That’s right I said it, breast feeding is not some disgusting and shocking thing. Growing up I was taught that women should do that in private, and as I grow older and clearly wiser. I want to know why should they cover up feeding their child? A child needs to eat right? We go and cook for ourselves when we’re hungry, but a baby can’t do that.
“How can you possibly love yourself if you’re afraid of what your body naturally does?”
I have become a person who sees her body as just that, a body that belongs to myself. I owe NO ONE an explanation as to why I hate shaving my legs, or why I sometimes (read: ALL the time) walk around with no bra on. I learned at the tinder age of 8 that my body and I are going to be together forever and that I have no choice but to accept that! I’ve always said that if I ever become a parent I’m going to be honest with my children when they ask questions, because to me who else would be better at teaching my children to love themselves than me? I am also extremely blessed to have the friends that I do, we are all very open about our bodies and what sort of weird moments happen to it.
Don’t be afraid to own yourself, or present YOUR body however you want to. Do not shy away from talking about the functions of your body, because it is normal for it to do that. In all honesty, if you struggle with being able to talk about your body or you just don’t know about it, read the book that my mom got for me. It’ll change your whole life and maybe help you learn to normalize yourself!
The Importance of My Girl Gang
by Kirsten Renee
“We’re dysfunctional at best, but I wouldn’t have it any other way.”
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I didn’t grow up appreciating my fellow lady friends, my friend circles were always full of catty ways and kicking people out. If you’ve ever seen that episode of Lizzie McGuire where Kate breaks her arm + the cheerleaders demote her… It was like that. Now though I have an army of bad ass women by my side + they aren’t going anywhere. I am a solid feminist, my love for my fellow women stands tall. Having your girls by your side is something that can’t be explained, It’s like “who else is going to know what sneezing on your period is like?” Girl gangs are like a sisterhood in a sense, a super tight knit community of warrior princesses.
I have a core circle of gal pals that I went through teenage angst with , we don’t ever see each other but we always keep each other up to date. Some of them have kids, others are married, and living life. These ladies knew me at a very young and wild age, where partying was more important than anything. However, as most adolescent friendships do we went our separate ways, and that is perfectly okay. One thing still stands though, we are always rooting for one another.
“I have an army of bad ass women by my side + they aren’t going anywhere.”
In my late teens and early twenties, the higher power blessed me with my sister squad. The five of us make up the oddest, but purest blended family. We’ve all grown up together in our small hometown, but we didn’t become a complete family until our late teens. These women helped see me through the most pivotal phase of my life, they watched me transform from a person full of self deprecation and depressive episodes into the confident and self assured fairy that I am today. We’ve all watched each other transform into stronger individuals. Through heartbreaks, triumphs, drunken nights and every moment in between we have rooted ourselves in the foundation of our friendship. We have moved and graduated college, gotten engaged, and had real adult experiences. Our conversations have gone from Joe Jonas vs Nick Jonas and first kisses to home decor talks, and sex tips that we read on Buzzfeed. We have grown into women together, and that’s an experience that only we get to say we had.
I also have two women in my life who are possibly extra heartbeats in my chest. These two transcend sisterhood and family, they are what I call my right hand and my life partner. My right hand I have known each other for six years, but it has felt like a million lifetimes. She is my soul twin and you would think that we’re actual sisters, but we’re not! Life partner and myself have been best friends for 11 years and one would argue that we date with how close we are. Her husband reminds us of it all the time! However we are as thick as thieves because she was the first friend to ever have my back without a second thought. No matter what the situation is, she is down to ride with me until the wheels fall off. She protects me, cares for me like one of her own kids even though I’m older and she’s never afraid to check me when I go left. That sort of friendship is the rarest and most special in my opinion. We are blood even though genetics say we are not, but we were never they types to listen to anyone else.
“We have grown into women together, and that’s an experience that only we get to say we had.”
Having a group of women who inspire you, love you and care for you is something that every lady on this planet should experience. There is something about being bonded together in womanhood that is thrilling. We are unstoppable, and together we can make mountains move if we tried hard enough. If you have your own girl gang / sister squad / BFF call them and remind them why you love them so much. Ladies of the world, I leave you with this “Go out and inspire each other’.
5 Perfect Movies For The Ultimate G.N.I.
by Kirsten F.
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There’s nothing like calling up the girls and having them all over for a fun filled night of drinking, cookies and eating so much that you poop your life away. Of course on any good G.N.I you HAVE to have great movies! So I came to your rescue with my own list of favorite films!
1. Fired Up!
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There is nothing better than getting together with your girls and quoting every scene from this movie. Tbh if you haven’t seen Fired Up, You are surely missing out on “pee your jammies” type of laughs. Not to mention, Shawn and Nick are the ultimate babes!
2. She's The Man
In what I personally feel is Amanda Byne’s best film EVER, “She’s The Man” is the PERFECT movie to kick your G.N.I off! Who doesn’t want to watch a movie about a badass lady taking down a bunch of jerks? I know me and my girls surely do. This movie is full of feminine power, and a half naked Channing Tatum . . . So that's an ultimate win. #BadAssHunkyDude
3. Clueless
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You can’t have a girls night + not include the ultimate 90′s classic “Clueless”! Cher, Dionne and Tye are the perfect trio to get you and your girls in the lady bonding mood. Clueless is a classic, and it teaches you valuable life lessons like; Make sure your shoes are on tight so you don't almost knock someone out while you dance. Also, it’ll make you want to go shopping because the outfits are LEGIT.
4. 21 + Over
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21 + Over is the film that’ll probably turn your Your G.N.I into a G.N.O. There’s nothing like watching Miles Teller and Skylar Astin walk around with nothing but a sock on. Although, don't be like them and lose a friend. Make sure you and your girls are near each other at all times! Sister safety!
5. Sixteen Candles
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You can’t have a G.N.I movie night and not invite everyone’s favorite 80′s princess Molly Ringwald! Sixteen Candles is a movie that not only makes you wish that you got to wear 80′s fashion, but it’s a film that you and your gal pals can relate to. Everyone and I mean everyone, has had a Jake Ryan…Am I right?
Tell us what your favorite G.N.I movie’s are!
Is Closure Really Necessary?
by Kirsten F.
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If you haven't seen the video of the ex couple sitting face to face and openly talking about how cheating affected their relationship watch it HERE .
**** THERE ARE SPOILERS AFTER THIS ****
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I first saw this video (that has now gone viral as #HurtBae ) Wednesday morning while I was scrolling down twitter. I was intrigued because how many people are willing to confront their ex about what went wrong in their relationship. There they were face to face, the young woman sat nervously staring at the guy who broke her heart. She asked him why he cheated, how many times he cheated, question after question. He answered honestly and even when she started to cry he didn't even blink. Most people thought that by him remaining "emotionless" he didn't care about her. I too thought that until, I remembered my own situations like this. I've been on both sides of the spectrum the one crying, and the one sitting in complete silence. What this video represents is the grey area of love; Society has conditioned us to believe that love is simple, it's black and white, and it comes with a checklist. Society is very, very WRONG about everything when it pertains to relationships.
I think everyone focused on her reactions and how she felt, which on the surface is what we would focus on. Yet when we looked at him the one who caused the hurt, I don't think many people saw that he was also hurt. He hurt himself, because they were good friends and he knows he messed up. Cheating isn't excusable, it also isn't something to be shunned either.
(I'm sure I pressed a nerve saying that.)
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Hear me out though, remember when I said love is the grey area? Well here's why, people cheat to escape their current situations, to get revenge, or just because they simply can not contain the amount of love they give. There are a plethora of reasons, but for some people it truly is just who they are. Some people (myself included) are non-monogamous, which means we are more comfortable vibing with different people. Being that is FINE, and so is wanting to be committed. However, those two don't match up because a person who has no desire to be monogamous isn't going to be. When it comes to relationships/situationships/etc sometimes we tend to put ourselves with people who do not match our needs. That's okay, not everyone is meant to vibe with each other like that. I don't think Kourtney or Leonard were ever on the same page, which in retrospect isn't the best place to be with someone. I do believe they both loved each other though, because people can have multiple versions of love with the same person. For them I think they definitely had a friendship outside of their relationship, which is why when he asked her why she stayed, Kourtney said "because you're my best friend".
"People thought that by him remaining "emotionless" he didn't care about her. "
Having two different types of relationships with the same person can work, if everybody is on the same page. Honesty will ALWAYS save you in the long run, and I don't mean just being honest to your partner(s). I mean being honest to yourself, because we ALL know when we're fucking up. Whether we're doing the hurting or being hurt in relationships, you have to forgive yourself. Self forgiveness is most important because, you can't expect someone to forgive you for hurting them. Never demand someone's forgiveness because it isn't yours to have unless they want you to. I think Kourtney forgave him because he was her best friend, but I think after having that conversation she forgave herself.
To answer the question "is closure necessary?" the answer will be it depends on the person. Some people need that conversation, and some don't. It's perfectly fine to not need conversations with people that you no longer talk to. However, it's always best to just be completely honest up front about your intentions. That saves a lot of wasted time, and confusion.
Be blessed.
Love Yo' Self Spells
by Kirsten F.
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I've been feeling the loving vibes from my Sun sign (Aquarius) passing through. I've been extremely tuned into myself, and to my emotions. Realizing that it was time for a massive spiritual cleansing, I took to learning how to create and work love spells. Growing up I was always afraid of love spells, as a child I remember family conversations of women chaining men to them through spaghetti. I also remember the scene in "Practical Magic" and that woman was so obsessed with a man that she couldn't stand it. Those always seemed wild and extreme to me because I've always felt like love should be given freely. How people receive your love is on them, but how you give it is on you.
As I've grown my curiosity of witchcraft into an entire part of my life, I've continuously been learning day by day of what type of magick I possess, and what I can create. I run off of love, and for a long time I could never admit that to myself. I prefered to keep a hard exterior instead of allowing my entire being to radiate the compassion that I felt inside. As I began seeing past preconceived ideas of love spells, I began to try my hand at creating my own. Adding Rose Quartz to my crystal collection, and diving into figuring out what it was that I need. I found out that I speak through music and written words. I found my love of writing love letters to people who matter to me again. As I work these spells I notice the way that my spirit is responding, I am facing myself in a way that once would have scared me. I'm realizing that those shadows that lurked in my past are not bad, but are lessons that I needed. My intuition is my biggest allie and I always trust it.
When working spells of the heart, be mindful that no matter if the outcome is meant for you or another. The truth will always come forward, because to love anything or anyone the truth must be revealed. Asking the spirit guides for their help in aiding your self love spells is asking for every door you've ever had to open and confront you. Because to love yourself, you must know yourself first.
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I'm still new at creating my own spells and rituals, but that doesn't make them not real. No matter where you are on your journey your magick is as strong as you want/need it to be. With that being said, I've included a spell that I created and that I've tried from other people!
Attracting Love To You , From You
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This spell is for some self induced TLC! Creating your reality is all about your perception, so if you believe the spell will work... It will. I'm in no way saying the result will be instant, nor am I saying that you'll even see some major effect. Spells work differently for different people, at least that's what I've learned.
What You'll Need:
- Pink, Red, or White candle(s)
- Rose Quartz / Citrine
- A clear and grounded space, sage your work space and meditate (dance, sing, whatever you do to go into your own spirit).
- Stand in the mirror, find yourself. Invision a white light engulfing you.
- Orange oil (or your favorite oil!)
Recite:
My spirit is full of lust, love and compassion.
I seek truth and guidance from my intuition and (any other god/dess, fairies, spirit guides, guardian angels,etc) that protect me.
My love is my own to give as freely as I see fit, and to take back whenever I feel the need to.
end the spell with whatever you like to send it off with.
Extra Tips:
- You can also write this spell down on any mirroring surface. Working with mirrors is a very direct and all walls down type of practice. By writing these words down, you are asking for them to reflect onto your present life. So be mindful when using mirrors in your practices.
- Write this spell down on a piece of paper, bless it and carry it with you until you feel like you don't need to any longer.
- Sleep with the written spell! You can place it underneath your pillow or lay it beside you before you go to bed.
You can also read out some of my personal favorite love spells written by some of my favorite people!
Check out this interview that Gabriela Herstik from HelloGiggles.com did with Bri Luna aka The Hoodwitch! Bri gives a lesson in working with Rose Quartz and your heart chakra!
Let us know if you used this spell!
Alexis Ren X ColourPop Collaboration
ColourPop's latest collaboration is here! Have you checked out the Alexis Ren X ColourPop collection yet? They're limited edition so get these babies while you can.
Over here at On the Edge, we're huge fans of ColourPop. We recently talked about their lip bundles and we're back to talk about ColourPop's latest collaboration! On February 3rd, the Alexis Ren X ColourPop collection launched. Alexis Ren is a 20-year-old Instagram model who, according to Refinery 29, usually works with mentionable fashion brands. The ColourPop line is her first beauty collection and we're definitely excited! Keep reading to see what limited edition products are offered in the Alexis Ren X ColourPop line.
Alexis Ren X ColourPop
Pressed Powder Face Duo in "Topaz"
For just $15, ColourPop's Pressed Powder Face Duo in "Topaz" is the brand's first ever pressed highlighter and bronzer duo. The duo comes with a universal highlighter and bronzer. The "She's Here to Stay" highlighter is a true gold, pearlized highlighter. The "Golden Moment" bronzer is matte and golden, which is perfect for all skin tones. Since this pressed powder duo is universal and matches all skin tones, it sold out instantly. But luckily, ColourPop is restocking it and you bet we're getting our hands on one of those babies! Just keep in mind -- you can only order a maximum of two pressed powder face duos because they are limited edition. So get it before it's gone again!
Blotted Lips in "Exotic," "Deja Vu," and "Lexi"
Just like the Pressed Powder Duo, the Alexis Ren X ColourPop blotted lips are the first of the brand's. The collaborative line offers blotted lips in three shades -- Exotic, Deja Vu, and Lexi. "Exotic" is an orange red shade. "Deja Vu" is a pink nude. "Lexi" is a cool-toned red. No matter what lipstick shades you prefer, the Alexis Ren X ColourPop collection offers a variety you can choose from. And the best part is you apply them just like lip balm! These will be great for when you're on the go.
Ultra Matte Lip in "Little Weapon" and Ultra Satin Lip in "Bare Necessities"
And of course, ColourPop is mostly known for their Ultra Matte Lips and Ultra Satin Lips. Just like the rest of the brand, the Alexis Ren X ColourPop line offers one of each. The Ultra Matte Lip for Alexis Ren X ColourPop comes in the shade, "Little Weapon," which is a true orange red. The Ultra Satin Lip for Alexis Ren X ColourPop comes in "Bare Necessities," which is a peachy pink nude.
That's everything in ColourPop's latest collaborative line! You already know we'll be ordering some lippies and the highlighter/bronzer duo when it's back in stock.
What are your thoughts on the Alexis Ren X ColourPop collection?
Weekly Zodiac Tarot Reading || 02.16.17
by Kirsten F.
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Happy Valentine's Day/Week everyone! I absolutely love, Valentine's Day it has recently become one of my favorite holidays to celebrate. As I continue my journey of higher self and deeper understanding , love has become my go to emotion. I find myself crying over happy things, I've become more compassionate to myself and to others, and I've just fallen in love with love itself. I've also come face to face with parts of myself that I had thought I had forgotten long about. Love is deeper than just what society has made us believe, love begins and ends with us as individuals. How you love yourself and how you love other people are most important. Only we can decide how our hearts beat outside of our chests.
Loving yourself comes with knowing your ins and outs, the demons and the angels, and listening to your intuition. Letting yourself feel whatever emotions rise to the surface, acknowledging the habits that we have carried since childhood and ones we have picked up along the way. This week many showcase their love for their partners, friends, and family members. Yet we often forget to tend to our own needs during such a magical and special time of the year.
Allow yourself to heal, cry, smile, laugh, etc. Experience your own self love.
Air (Aquarius, Gemini, Libra)
Beyond Illusion
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Follow your intuition air sign, our gut feeling isn't there for shits and giggles! You may not have all of the pieces to your puzzle, but you know what the bigger picture looks like and that should be all the drive you need. We don't always need to see the next step to take it; blind faith and your intuitive nature is your best friend. Pay attention to the signs that keep popping up around you. Those angel numbers, and certain themes aren't just a coincidence nor is the message that you keep ignoring. Your true calling is screaming out to you, are you going to answer?
Water (Pisces, Cancer, Scorpio)
Thunderbolt
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When I was younger I heard that right before a person is struck by lightning they can feel the current before the actual shock. Every hair on your body stands up, and your body connects to the electrical current of the lightening bolt. Physically no one wants to get shocked by electricity, but spiritually that's a whole other ball game! With water sign Pisces floating it's way into the sun soon allow their empathetic ways to flow into your own journey. Let that shock to your spiritual system light you up and create whatever your heart desires. Be empathetic and understanding to yourself. Allow yourself to heal, and be rejuvenated, it's time to really focus on those parts of yourself that you've ran from and the ones you're too scared to run to.
Earth (Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn)
Friendliness
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"Treat others the way you want to be treated." That's the golden rule right? Well how about treat yourself the way that you treat others. True contentment and happiness comes from within! Is that easier said than done? Of course! However, you have an opportunity to focus on doing what makes your soul happy. Take a new cooking class, go sky diving, pick up an old activity that you haven't done in awhile. Take off your white hat, and throw on your shades! It's time you relax in paradise and turn that phone of yours OFF! You don't always have to be so accessible, there is happiness in being your own friend. The same way you're always there for your pals, be there for yourself! Don't look at it as selfishness, but as a necessary vacation. You can go back to being captain save a homie later on!
Fire (Aries, Leo, Sagittarius)
Stress
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You're tough, whatever you set out to do you get it done. However, have you ever thought about taking on one task at a time? Multitasking is your ultimate jam, you dominate when you have a full plate. Sometimes having a full plate means rushing to get things done , and when you rush you don't give the task at hand your full attention. Time is manmade, it is literally what you make of it. You don't see animals rushing to do whatever it is that they do, they just do it on their own time, and at their own pace! Nothing that inhabits this planet rushes, except for us! Slow your roll, and enjoy your present life! Remember that you can have everything and then some if you just tap the brakes a bit!
Have a blessed week/end!
59th Annual Grammy Awards: A Night in Review
If you weren't able to catch the 59th Annual Grammy Awards on Sunday, February 12th, then I've got a short little highlight reel for you.
If you weren't able to catch the 59th Annual Grammy Awards on Sunday, February 12th, then I've got a short little highlight reel for you. Let me disclose that we here at OTE are a family with similar values and ideals, but my opinions on the night are strictly my own.
Let's get started!
While there were many moments throughout the evening that were beyond fantastic, these were the few that stuck out in my mind. For a full list of winners, performances, etc., feel free to visit the official Grammy website which will be linked at the bottom.
Adele
Talk about a grand opening! Everything about the opening musical number was flawless; her dress, her voice, and her all-around presence. Let's not forget her incredible rendition of George Michael's Fastlove for his tribute performance. She gained even more respect from me (and I'm sure countless others) when she stopped in the beginning of the song to do her version, and the late British singer justice. Adele is the epitome of class. Don't worry, girl. No one's knocking you for swearing. Or breaking your award for Album of the Year in half. But more on that later.
Chance the Rapper
I will be the first to tell you that I'm not a huge fan of rap music. As a musician, I hold an appreciation for every genre of music, and attempt to dip my toes in the water of each, but I've never really heard anything by Chance the Rapper. That all changed after his acceptance speeches and performance. So many rappers come off as vulgar and uneducated, but this man is an exception to the game. I respect anyone who uses their music to give glory to God, and recognizes where they come from. Curse that damn play-off music though. I understand that a timeline needs to be kept, but let's not be rude, Recording Academy (or whomever runs the show).
Beyonce'
If you're a fan of the public-proclaimed 'Queen B' then she was EVERYTHING. However, if you're like me, and don't really stand behind the hype, then the performance was at a level of understanding that went way over your head. I will give props where props are due. As a fellow expectant mother, I couldn't have done what she did. Performance wise or vocally. I have a hard enough time holding a conversation standing still let alone singing while sitting in a chair leaned backwards damn near parallel to the floor. I will not neglect to mention that she looked stunning. Bey wears pregnancy well. And her reaction to Adele literally splitting her award for Album of the Year? You can't tell me she's not a humble woman.
Collaborative Performances
I'm going to make this short and sweet because I could go on forever on why some of these performances made me want to throw something at the TV.
- Kelsea Ballerini and Lukas Graham: It's a no from me. At least on the mash-up aspect of it.
- Lady Gaga and Metallica: Gaga is my QUEEN. Once the technical issues were fixed, I rocked out.
- Keith Urban and Carrie Underwood: Love them as individual artists, and a collboration between the two sounded like a Godsend. Until I actually heard the song. What the hell happened to Country music?
- Maren Morris and Alicia Keys: SO. MUCH. YES. A hometown sweetheart plus my vocal idol. Perfection.
- Prince Tribute: Genius. Look it up. You won't be disappointed.
- Bee Gee's Tribute: I mean, it wasn't bad. Wasn't the best. Legendary vocalists paying tribute to a legendary band.
- Tribe Called Quest and Busta Rhymes: One word; Magic. #Resist
James Corden
Quite possibly my favorite British person who wasn't at one time an official member of One Direction. I loved him hosting the Tony Awards last year. I thought his opening bit was genius, the bit with his parents was hilarious, and incorporating his trademark Carpool Karaoke was amazing. I say we give him honorary American citizenship, and let him and Jimmy Kimmel alternate on hosting everything for the rest of their existence.
Recap
Adele was the definition of class and humility, Beyonce slayed, Chance the Rapper killed, and James Corden was remarkable. It was an incredibly entertaining night of music, and recognizing the past, present, and future pioneers of the music industry. Looking forward to next year.
For a full list of winners, highlights, and performances, visit the official Grammy website at www.grammy.com
Weekly Zodiac Tarot Reading || 02.09.17
by Kirsten F.
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Has anyone else been feeling like things are coming to light? I don't mean just within the world itself, but with ourselves? This week (and in previous weeks) I've been feeling like all of my parts have really brought themselves to the surface. It could also be that the Leo full moon + eclipse that's popping in this weekend! Check back tomorrow for a sweet little ritual that you can do to help tap into the lunar energy!
As always, enjoy this week's message! Tweet me ( @Kirsten_Renee_) to tell me what's going on in your life!
AIR (Aquarius, Gemini, Libra)
Control
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Until YOU decide to take on the pilot's seat you're never going to feel complete. Sure the Universe knows exactly what our lives are supposed to be, and gives us the tools to live it. However, you can't expect the universe to do all the work, take the initiative and do your part in helping yourself. Deep down you know there's something that is holding you back from doing whatever it is you want to do. Tap into those unearthed feelings, let them come to the surface, and deal with them once and for all. There's no point in allowing your spirit to hold onto things that you know don't serve you any good. Now is not the time to keep feeding into bad habits, or pushing them underneath the rug.
The Universe & Goddess are trying to tell you something; you know when things seem too good to be true, or you keep getting signs about something specific. Listen to those signs, those are messages that you KNOW are for you. Trust your intuition, and trust that you're going in the right direction!
Water (Pisces, Cancer, Scorpio)
Adventure
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You've got a passion inside that has been ready to bubble over water sign. There's no better time than now to get a head start on your goals! Take a weekend vacation, apply for your dream job, take a new exercise class (be adventurous and try pole dancing)! That wanderlust you're feeling is there for a reason, and it doesn't always mean moving to a new city or traveling. Maybe you've been feeling like you need a life refresher; Start by changing things in your daily life. Meditate, get a haircut, try a new food... Find the excitement in your life again.
Something spectacular is headed your way, you just have to make sure that you're paying attention when it arrives. Life stops for no one, and it will continue on long after we're gone. What you do now, is what's important and you need to remember that in the upcoming weeks!
Earth (Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn)
Sharing
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It's okay to let every part of yourself shine through. Love as freely as you see fit, be compassionate to others and most importantly be compassionate to yourself. Valentine's Day is coming soon, and even though you've probably got all sorts of festivities planned. Don't forget to plan something for yourself! Wine and dine yourself, stand in the mirror and tell yourself all of the things you love about you. Watch your favorite movie, order from your favorite restaurant, go for a walk or treat yourself to a movie!
You're always giving parts of yourself to everyone around you, and you often put you on the back burner. Treat yourself better, love and take care of yourself more. Everybody else can wait, you don't always have to be the savior.
Fire (ARIES, LEO, SAGITTARIUS)
Isolation
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It's okay to be alone, be by yourself and with your thoughts. Stop running from whatever it is that you don't want to face. You can't outrun the truth especially when it's about yourself! Isolation is necessary sometimes, because how are you going to thrive around other people if you're constantly running from yourself. It's time to get real fire sign . . . Who are you? Who do you want to be? What parts of yourself make you feel uneasy and why? These are the questions that you need to be asking yourself. With us going full throttle into new energy (more about that later) there's no time for not being the real you.
If you don't allow yourself to be real, I can promise you that the universe is going to do it for you... And you may not like how it does it. Take this alone time that you have been given and really use it to let your truth out.
6 Ingredients to Keep Your Acne-Prone Skin Clear
Adult, hormonal acne sucks. I'm in my mid-twenties and still suffer with acne once a month. But after dealing with acne for over a decade, I've done plenty of research and know which products work best for me. Keep reading to find out which ingredients will help keep your acne-prone skin clear and glowing!
Hormonal, adult acne sucks. I experienced my first breakout when I was about 12-years-old. Now I'm in my mid-twenties and still struggle with hormonal acne. One week, my skin will be bright, clear, and glowing. Another week (most likely when my menstrual cycle begins), my face will be entirely broken out and irritated by the inflammation. Needless to say, it can take a temporary toll on your self-esteem. But that's what this week's post is for -- a list of ingredients to help keep your skin clear and glowing. Keep reading if you want to step up your skincare routine and no longer worry about breakouts.
Benzoyl Peroxide
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Benzoyl peroxide is an alpha-hydroxy acid (AHA) that is used as a topical treatment for mild to moderate acne. It fights the acne-causing bacteria in your pores and on your skin. Benzoyl peroxide also works to prevent acne before it occurs so the best results come with consistent use. It can be found in gels, creams, and cleansers. You can find 5% or 10% benzoyl peroxide topical creams in drug stores. My favorite is Clean & Clear's Persa-Gel, which contains maximum strength 10% benzoyl peroxide.
Salicylic Acid
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Whereas benzoyl peroxide is an AHA, salicylic acid is a beta-hydroxy acid (BHA). Salicylic acid is also used as a topical treatment for acne and helps exfoliate your skin. According to Allure Magazine, salicylic acid works better on whiteheads and blackheads than cystic acne. Just like benzoyl peroxide, salicylic acid can be found in gels, creams, and cleansers. The only difference is that salicylic acid comes in smaller doses; you'll usually find 0.5%, 1%, or 2% salicylic acid in acne treatments. I use Philosophy's Clear Days Ahead Acne Treatment Cleanser, which contains 1% salicylic acid and works wonders on my skin.
Retinol
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Another ingredient that works wonders on my skin is retinol, which is essentially vitamin A. Retinol can be found in both acne and anti-aging treatments. It can be used to treat and prevent acne. Other benefits of retinol are firmer skin, refined pores, and less visible wrinkles. While retinol provides many great benefits, it can be drying and make your skin more sensitive to sun exposure. So make sure you apply a moisturizer with SPF! Retinol is usually found in serums, moisturizers, and creams. I am currently using Valentia's Night Revive Retinol Serum every other night and it has improved my skin's appearance!
Glycolic Acid
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Glycolic acid, another AHA, also helps to improve my skin's appearance. In fact, glycolic acid is the smallest type of AHA, so it can really get into your pores and treat the toughest acne. Glycolic acid is primarily used as an exfoliant and should only be used once or twice a week. According to Bona Fide Skin Care, other benefits of glycolic acid are refined pores and wrinkles, faded scars and hyperpigmentation, and brighter skin. The most effective dosage of glycolic acid is 10% or less. Once a week, I use Peter Thomas Roth's Glycolic Acid 10% Toning Complex.
Tea Tree Oil
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Tea tree oil is an all-natural ingredient that can be used as a topical treatment for acne. This essential oil kills bacteria, which makes it a great ingredient for treating acne. It helps to heal acne and fade scars. My favorite tea tree oil product is the Body Shop's Tea Tree Night Lotion, which absorbs excess oil and improves blemishes overnight.
Argan Oil
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Argan oil is another all-natural and essential oil that treats acne and helps control sebum production. Of all the ingredients listed, argan oil is most definitely the miracle worker because it can be applied to both your skin and hair. Not to mention, this essential oil can also be used in foods and can be eaten. But for acne treating purposes, argan oil helps control sebum production, making your skin less oily. It helps prevent future breakouts and keeps your skin soft, supple, and moisturized. My favorite product to use is Josie Maran's 100% Pure Argan Oil.
Like I said, I've been dealing with acne for over a decade now. I've done my research and learned which products work best for me. Some of these products listed might not work out as well for you. You might even be allergic to some ingredients. It's all about trial and error but the key factor is to be patient and persistent!
What ingredients do you use to keep your skin clear?
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February Featured Author: Jane Doe
One of my favorite things about reading this piece is that even though it's not a full novel, it's written with riveting detail. I didn't want to stop reading, and there was never necessarily a slow point. But something left me craving...more.
Recently, I was sent a copy of an amazing short story written by an author who, from this moment forward, will be referred to as Jane Doe. In reality, the writer of this piece is a remarkably sweet woman who chose to share the story of her entrance into the world of teenage parenthood in one of the most revealing and detailed ways possible.
Out of the respect for everyone's personal work, I will continue to refer to our anonymous author as J (Jane Doe), and try my hardest to give you a glimpse into the short, yet detailed, story that is, Enough.
Our story opens up with an explanation of the co-stars of our protagonist's tale; the supporting characters who actually shape the story, and give detail into the real story of loves found and lost.
Q: What made you want to pen your own story rather than something fictitious?
J: I had hit a horrible bout of writer's block and a very dear mentor suggested I take a personal event and write it out in an effort to break that wall
Q: How long have you been writing?
J: Ever since I was a little kid. I started with short stories around 7-8 and continued off and on to present day, at age 20.
One of my favorite things about reading this piece is that even though it's not a full novel, it's written with riveting detail. I didn't want to stop reading, and there was never necessarily a slow point. But something left me craving...more.
Q: Have you ever considered going more in depth with this part of your life i.e. writing a whole novel?
J: I wish I had that kind of self-control! I generally write a chapter or two and get bored. This is the first time I've made an effort to follow through with something.
Q: Who are some of our favorite authors?
J: Sarah Dessen, Stephen King, JK Rowling, Jodi Picoult, Ellen Hopkins.
A woman after my own heart! You can tell not only by the context of the story, but also from the eloquence of the writing that J pulls inspiration from some of the biggest and best names in publication; past and present.
However, inspiration comes from within, and is personal. Something J understands. She brings her own voice into her work that makes it unique from things that are highly publicized.
Q: Would you say there's a specific person, place, or thing that inspires you to write?
J: Not at all. Inspiration can strike at any point. An interesting looking stranger at the grocery store, a certain song that comes on my shuffle just as my son masters a new skill, anything.
Q: Do you plan on making your story available to the public?
J: Well...being here is about as public as I can imagine!
For a copy or chance to read Enough, a true story by Jane Doe, hit me up in my DMs on any form of social media. This is a story that should be available to any and everyone for it's raw, biographic content.
Have a story you want to share? Do you wish to be the next Featured Author for On The Edge? E-mail us at weareote@gmail.com, or find us on Twitter @weare_ontheedge, and let us know! You could be next.
Weekly Zodiac Tarot Reading || 02.02.17
by Kirsten F.
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Happy Thursday! It's February and this is the time of unfiltered compassion! The world's loveliest holiday is this month, let the vibes of this month motivate you to be more loving and free! Even if you don't have a boo, you can still spend Valentine's Day with your pals, your family, or yourself! Love is the answer to all things, so spread a little everywhere you go! Enjoy this week's message!
Air (Aquarius, Gemini, Libra)
Existence
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Be present in your life this week air sign. Take time to think about your life, your personal journey and how you can find your center if you feel off balance. Only you know what the divine plan has for you, and though you may feel a bit lost right now. Tune into your own spiritual frequency and listen. Create the life that lives in your day dreams, this is the perfect time to begin those plans because the zodiac is still in Aquarius. Follow your element, let the current of the wind take you on whatever way it's meant to take you.
Water (Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces)
Adventure
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You spent 2016 planning out your big moves, and working your ass off for the end result. However something in you is becoming impatient, maybe that's your subconscious telling you that it's time to throw caution to the wind and do it! What better time than now to live out your dreams? Sure it's terrifying but, you're already ready... You've been ready. It's time for you to believe in yourself, trust your gut feeling and live.
Earth (Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn)
Experiencing
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What is holding you back from just letting go and free falling in life? I understand that you like your feet planted firmly on the ground. Just like Trees you prefer to have your roots close to you. However there are also other parts of the tree that choose to follow their own path. You are the tree; you're the roots, the branches, the leaves, and the shelter. It's time for you to put all of your parts to work Taurus, Virgo & Capricorn. Spend some time with your family and friends, take a hot bath, write, go to therapy, or do something that makes you feel good. You can't find your balance if you won't acknowledge all of your parts.
Fire (Aries, Leo, Sagittarius)
Guidance
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Have you ever heard the phrase "smoke follows beauty"? Look it up when you get the chance, you've got a lot of protection around you these days. Your Guardian Angels, Faeries, Spirit Guides, etc... Are trying to give you a message and you seem to be only listening to yourself. Whatever is happening or has happened in your life recently has got you down, and your spirit guides are trying to get you to see the lesson! If you lost your job, your boo left, or you're just feeling lost, stop the pity train and hop off! You've got so many blessings waiting on you, and they can't be delivered while you're pitying yourself.
ColourPop "Up and Away" and "Can You Knot" Lip Bundles
Liquid lipsticks are the entire craze right now and one of the top brands out there is ColourPop, which offers a wide variety of shades and finishes for very cheap prices. ColourPop’s Ultra Matte Lips are the most popular products and there are so many shades to choose from! There’s so many that ColourPop usually releases lip bundles so it’s just a little easier to decide which shade you want to buy and wear. Recently, ColourPop released their fall collection lip bundles with combinations of their glossy, satin, and matte finishes. I was able to get my hands (or should I say… lips) on two of their lip bundles – Up and Away & Can You Knot. Keep reading to learn more about ColourPop’s lip bundles and some swatches of the shades!
Up and Away
(via ColourPop Cosmetics)
(via ColourPop Cosmetics)
ColourPop’s Up and Away lip bundle is a trio of warm toned shades. The three shades are Love Bug, Mama, and Calypso. Love Bug is a rich mahogany matte finish, Mama is a burnt orange matte finish, and Calypso is a mid-tone pink satin lippie. My favorite out of the three is Love Bug. Mama looks too orange on my skin and Calypso is just like any other pink shade on me. I’m only speaking for myself. You never know what shade looks good on you until you try it!
Can You Knot
(via ColourPop Cosmetics)
(via ColourPop Cosmetics)
Unlike the Up and Away lip bundle’s warm tones, ColourPop’s Can You Knot lip bundle features darker, berry shades. The three shades included in the Can You Knot lip bundle are Hutch, Notion, and Sookie. Hutch is a deep blackened violet satin finish. Notion is a deepened raspberry matte shade. Sookie is a full-coverage rich plum glossy finish. Of the three shades in the Can You Knot lip bundle, Notion is my favorite. Hutch is a little too dark for me and I don’t like glosses at all… so Sookie is out of the question. But it does look like a great finishing touch to layer over Notion if you ever want to go from a satin look to a glossy look.
For the last few months, ColourPop has been my go-to for lippies. Like I said, they offer a wide variety of shades and finishes to choose from. Each lippie is about $6 and domestic shipping is free for orders over $30! For $30, you can get FIVE lippies. That would afford you just one (maybe two if you’re lucky) lippie from higher end brands. I will definitely be adding more shades to my collection. You can find more lip bundles and collections on ColourPop's site.
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Why Black Privilege Cannot Exist
by Emery W.
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I've been pondering about writing on this subject for such a long time because I was afraid my views would offend others, and cause a argument I didn't feel like I was to handle. Then, it dawned on me; a man whose purpose is to silence those of us who want to speak out on the mistreatment of Black Americans is being sworn in as the leader of our nation, and as a citizen, my being silent is unacceptable.
I want to first say that a large majority of my friends are white, and I love them the same as my friends who are black, but I've noticed several differences in the way that my friends of color live versus my white ones.
There's one thing that my white friends will never understand, and it's their level of privilege. Even the ones who don't come from extremely wealthy families don't understand the value behind working their way up from the bottom. Here's where people may start getting offended. I'm not saying white people don't work as hard as black people. What I am saying is that the playing field is not even. You have to go back to history in order for my point to be proven.
From the beginning of slavery of black people in America to their emancipation, we as Black Americans have had to work. There's no money or titles our ancestors were born into like the Europeans our white peers descended from. My ancestors taught their children to work, causing a domino effect on later generations. We were all taught to work for not only what we wanted, but for basic essentials we needed.
No matter how much someone may want to spin it; Jewish, Irish, etc.; you will always have a better chance at success than people who look like me because of the color of your skin. If people weren't aware of white privilege then Affirmative Action wouldn't exist. In my opinion, AA is something created by old white people to help soothe their guilt of turning away people based on the color of their skin.
If racism wasn't a problem, then why do minorities need a special program to get admitted into schools that their white peers can do based off of their skills? Because black privilege cannot exist. Affirmative Action is not a privilege, it's a handout. It's the same thing as being racist against white people; it's not possible.
I don't hate white people. I love them. If anything, I connect with them on a better level than some of my black friends, but that doesn't get rid of the divide. It doesn't eliminate the fact that they will always have it easier than me because of what they look like. I don't mind working hard. I'm proud of everything I achieve because it means it wasn't presented on a silver platter. I'm just mad at the reason why.